Parents is the first teacher in life: If I become a mother?

Mother. A familiar but always unfamiliar role.

The role of mother is the most basic but also the most difficult one in all the roles of life. In the process of children's growth, mother is undoubtedly an indispensable role. But it is such an important role that makes us grow up to be ourselves today.

I like the role of motherhood because in such a relationship, we give each other the opportunity to become better themselves, have independent souls, rely on each other instead of depending on each other. The upbringing of children is actually to prepare for ourselves.

Children are passers-by in life, so their growth process is so fleeting. Being born human, "privacy" is one of the most important things in our life. Even in adolescence, we don't want some of our little secrets to be known by others, including our parents. The secret is that we don't want to tell others. Since it's a secret, why do we need to digging?

If I'm really curious or worried, I will ask my kid directly. At least, I'll give a chance to tell. For me, what I don't know is not important. My patience is bigger than the curious. I have enough patience to wait one day for her to share her secrets voluntarily - that's the starting point of intimacy.

In that case, what exactly should we do? I think the answer is "Acceptance".

Acceptance of imagination is different from expectation. Acceptance of "I am me", parents' expectations of their children reflect either their own shortcomings or their own complacency. I don't  understand why "My" dreams need to be realized by others and why others want to realize "My" dreams. Parents should teach them what they don't teach in school and accept their right to say "No", even if things are different from what he expected, but after all, harmed is the only way which must be passed to grow up. And the only thing we need to do, is to keep company when you can. When it's time to fly alone, let them fly freely.